How Long Should You Wait to have Sex?
May28

How Long Should You Wait to have Sex?

By Carisa Carlton Fundamentalists say you shouldn’t have sex until after marriage. The promiscuous see no reason to wait. Somewhere between two extreme thoughts lies an entire nation of singles trying to figure out the best time to enter into a sexual relationship with a new partner. How long do you wait? The problem with the biblical no-sex-before-marriage is that all too often the newly married couple discovers they are not sexually...

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10 Simple Ways to be Powerfully Charismatic
May13

10 Simple Ways to be Powerfully Charismatic

By Carisa Carlton Whether in business or in dating, authenticity stretches further and lasts longer than the alternative. If you don’t care about setting yourself apart from your competitors, stop reading now and click on something you can use. But, if you want to become better at attracting the right people to your brand (you or your business), consider these suggestions. 1. Show genuine interest when meeting someone. Make eye...

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How to End a Relationship with Grace
Apr21

How to End a Relationship with Grace

By Carisa Carlton When a relationship is dying, you need to say what needs to be said. Part of the grief in breaking up a relationship has to do with closure. Grief is extended when there is no closure. The meat ax approach – name calling, walking out a slamming door, not returning calls, or “It’s over” text messages – is a traumatic way to end a relationship and the bloody butchering could not create more anxiety or less closure....

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Best Places to Meet Singles
Feb28

Best Places to Meet Singles

By Sarah Whittington Our most common response to Single in Laguna has little to do with who should pay for dinner, or how to improve their love life. Perhaps because they have no love life and hence the reason for reading this column in the first place. Oh dear. People want to know where they should go to meet singles. It’s simple, really. Women love all things horses. Perhaps it’s the power they hold, the trust they can...

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9 Simple Steps to Better Sex
Feb21

9 Simple Steps to Better Sex

By Sarah Whittington What are the secrets to having the best sex with your partner? The 9 basic steps are simple in concept, but difficult to master. Can you do it? 1. The highest heights require untainted presence. That means you need to be present without mental distractions. Mental distractions include thoughts of other lovers, discomfort with your own body, and anxiety over whether you are doing it right. The easiest way to clear...

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14 Valentine’s Secrets Cupid Never Told You
Feb11

14 Valentine’s Secrets Cupid Never Told You

By Carisa Carlton 1. “When Cupid pulls the arrow out of your heart, it really hurts.” ~Anonymous 2. Impromptu afternoons are remembered longer than gifts.   3. Sometimes when women say, “No,” they really mean, “Conquer me.”   4. Kisses tell the heart’s secrets.   5. The G-spot is straight up and to the left. 6. “Toes are to be licked, not squeezed into heels.” ~Black Cupid 7. Match...

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What Makes a Person Sexy?
Feb05

What Makes a Person Sexy?

By Carisa Carlton If you want to seduce a lover, forget chocolate and flowers and instead polish your personality. In over one hundred worldwide responses to the inquiry, “In three words or less, what makes a person sexy,” here’s what our respondents had to say: Character matters most. If you are compassionate, you dominate the sexy food chain. Second to compassion is a cocktail of stylish confidence, playful charisma, and courageous...

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Not All Sand & Sunshine: Dating in a Small Town
Feb04

Not All Sand & Sunshine: Dating in a Small Town

By Carisa Carlton Laguna Beach is not all sand and sunshine. It’s quite an indiscreet community. Even if you don’t know who you are dating, someone else does. Small town gossip travels through palm trees faster than you can say, “Siri, send a mass message,” and the same can be devastating if you don’t have a bullet-proof sense of humor. Laguna Beach is comprised of an eclectic group of 23,000 people: Millionaires and beach bums,...

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10 Simple Things You Can Do to Please a Woman (non-sexually)
Jan28

10 Simple Things You Can Do to Please a Woman (non-sexually)

By Carisa Carlton Pleasing a woman begins long before she is willing to follow you into the bedroom. Men may think that pleasing a woman is a complex, impenetrable secret, but women’s responses to our survey reveal surprising simplicity. Here’s what our readers say you can do to please her: 1. “Listen to Me.” 2. “Let me in.” 3. “Cook for me.” 4. “Dance with me.” 5....

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Touch Me, but Don’t Touch My Phone
Jan23

Touch Me, but Don’t Touch My Phone

By Richard Craig Sneaking a peek at your date’s smart phone? We have all done it, and I am guilty too. It first happened when Stephanie sunk into my spa, cuddled up to me and asked, “Who’s Jeannie?” Fortunately, Jeannie was a professional colleague who had just sent an email. An email that could only have been read by opening my PC, opening my email, and reading it. I’m not too quick, so I did not figure this...

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