What Makes Lovers Crazy Angry?
Jan21

What Makes Lovers Crazy Angry?

By Carisa Carlton As I understand it, anger is a secondary reaction – a defensive response to an initial injury: Something else always happens before anger, such as fear of abandonment or a narcissistic wound. In 10 Topics to Discuss Before Sharing Your Bed, I said couples should discuss what tips them toward temporary insanity, or really angry. Once you understand what makes you or your lover crazy angry, you can better...

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New Year’s Resolutions for Couples
Jan09

New Year’s Resolutions for Couples

By Richard Craig As the new year settled in, I sat around over coffee asking about New Year’s Resolutions and I got the normal comments about the gym, skydiving, and so on. As my buddy got up to leave, his long-term girlfriend looked at me and said, “Here are MY resolutions for HIM.” What an idea. So I started asking around, I asked couples to share with me what they wished their partners should be “resolved to do,” then I asked...

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10 Topics to Discuss Before Sharing Your Bed
Jan01

10 Topics to Discuss Before Sharing Your Bed

By Carisa Carlton With the sophisticated toys on the market today and the prolifically lonely need for touch, one needn’t travel far for pleasure. But if you value your heart, perhaps you should step back from the excitement of the moment, and discuss some of the below topics. All but one of these topics were recommended by others – thank you to the contributors who made me think. Some seem obvious.  Others came as a...

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Fun Things to Do on New Year’s Eve in Laguna Beach
Dec27

Fun Things to Do on New Year’s Eve in Laguna Beach

By Richard Craig So, it is nearly a week until New Years Eve and you have no plans yet? I began asking around and trying to find three simple things to do, something fun that might wow the pants (or dress) off your sweetheart. So, this is what I think would be fun: Begin your day on the Rooftop Lounge of the K’ya Bistro, they have great Happy Hour specials and there are few places in Laguna Beach with a better sunset. Your next...

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Single in Laguna: Cheap Sexy Nights
Dec10

Single in Laguna: Cheap Sexy Nights

By Carisa Carlton Our regular Singles in Laguna columnist, Richard Craig, is attending to family matters, so I am covering for him this week. It’s no big secret that I am single in Laguna, but what some may not know is that my friendship base is rather diverse. Having prominent friends is nice, but it’s the regular people that always seem to come through for me – with the few exceptions being my most admired cronies....

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Appropriate Christmas Gifts for Dating Singles
Dec04

Appropriate Christmas Gifts for Dating Singles

By Richard Craig There’s nothing worse than an inappropriate gift exchange. You know, the one where you give a big expensive gift only to be given something unwanted, unexpected, or undeserving. Even in a marriage, gift giving is difficult. Case in point: After dating a woman for a year, I married her on a crisp November day – one month before Christmas. So excited I was to please her, I bought her an expensive painting and had it...

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5 Rules for Bringing a Date Home for the Holidays
Nov26

5 Rules for Bringing a Date Home for the Holidays

By Richard Craig Over lunch, I was talking to the editor of this magazine and the holiday questions arose: When you are dating someone, no matter how intimate, what are the pitfalls of bringing the person you are dating home for the holiday(s) with the family? So, I began asking everyone and the feedback was funny and scary. No one, and I mean NO ONE, had the same suggestion, but one theme rattled through each response: Be prepared...

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Single In Laguna: The Disposability of Match.com
Nov19

Single In Laguna: The Disposability of Match.com

By Richard Craig I’ve sat at the Laguna Coffee Company too many times on my first Match.com.com dates.  It seems Laguna is the Match.com capital of the world. The couple next to us at LCC were Match.com.com daters, too. And, the guy had already met my date the week before. I figured out, as I quit online dating, that there seems to be a built-in disposability in Match.com, and I’m as guilty as anyone. First, it seems like...

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Single In Laguna: Third Date Rule
Nov12

Single In Laguna: Third Date Rule

By Richard Craig So here I was trying to be smooth, which, after a very weird divorce I was NOT. Sitting across from me was a luscious, curvy, wildly attractive woman. Exasperated by my dating questions, she began to list the answers and help me. She asked me if I was a player, I answered “Of course, I love golf and baseball…” She slammed her hand down and said, “This will be a very expensive dinner” It was. First, in...

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Single In Laguna:  Who’s on Top?
Nov05

Single In Laguna: Who’s on Top?

By Richard Craig Equality of the sexes – really? Laguna Beach is made up of a wide variety of professional men and women. It doesn’t matter if you are eating breakfast at Zinc’s, dining at the Montage or trying to pick someone up at Javiers – there is one question everyone has asked. This past week I was amused as I read the responses from my last column. Intriguing was the fact that women want chivalry; they...

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